Danity Kane‘s Aubrey O’Day is opening up about her tumultuous relationship with Jersey Shore star Paul “DJ Pauly D” DelVecchio. In an EXCLUSIVE interview with HollywoodLife, she revealed their relationship — which lasted from 2015 to mid-2017 — was so so emotionally distressing that she escaped to a brand new nation to seek out herself once more. “I needed to go to Bali. I needed to heal. I needed to get in a spot that I’m comfy in,” the 38-year-old “Damages” hitmaker confessed whereas selling her new single, “Couple Targets”, which debuted on Nov. 21 by way of Instagram and a nude video on OnlyFans.
“And I’ve a wider perspective of the whole lot. You recognize, I may take possession accountability of, of why I stayed in one thing that was so poisonous, why I, you understand, why I tolerated what I did. I used to be affected by like, you understand, not loving myself correctly,” Aubrey additional defined. “And I needed to handle myself and develop and be taught and evolve and get to a spot the place now I can launch this,” she continued, referencing “Couple Targets”.
“And I’m solely simply doing it for me, too, for my followers, and it’s concerning the artwork and it’s not concerning the man,” the double platinum recording artist added. “The tune and phrases are what I wrote in my diary on the time. I don’t belong to anyone however myself.”
Whereas the tune is known as “Couple Targets”, the lyrics describe the other and inform the story of a man impressed by Pauly D who doesn’t truly care concerning the girl beside him. “Poor, poor woman, you assume you’ve received the entire world, however he’s simply giving you an identical present, similar story as earlier than,” she sings, addressing the 42-year-old DJ and actuality star’s new relationship.
Elaborating on the inspiration behind her lyrics, Aubrey claimed, “He was continuously dishonest on me. I used to be coping with it from the start. It was this gaslighting sport. Too many lies and it was making me sick, drained, unhealthy, depleted, and I began evaluating myself to girls in each manner. And that’s what ladies do after they get cheated on.” She added, “It was a tiring exhausting life and I’m comfortable not residing it anymore.”
Pauly D beforehand denied dishonest allegations by his ex on his 2019 actuality collection, Double Shot at Love with DJ Pauly D & Vinny. “Yeah, I don’t try this complete dishonest factor,” he informed a contestant who introduced up considerations that he doesn’t take relationships severely. “It’s a waste of time.”
When he was pressured about dishonest rumors with Aubrey particularly, he doubled down on his assertion and referred to as the concept of him dishonest “loopy.” Responding to his suitors once more, he firmly defined, “Our relationship was on and off on and off on and off. Once we had been off she did her factor. After I was off, I did my factor. I might by no means. No level. I don’t consider in that. I by no means cheated on any girlfriend I’ve had in my life.”
In her chat with HollywoodLife, Aubrey additionally revealed why she waited a couple of years to talk on her “traumatic” relationship with Pauly D and launch music concerning the time in her life. “I consider that once you’re going by one thing traumatic, particularly these days, with phrases being so highly effective, you’re accountable for something you say,” she articulately defined. “So, for me, I simply actually attempt to ensure that I don’t converse once I’m nonetheless emotional about one thing as a result of, God forbid, I say one thing that I later remorse, or I don’t converse with like, the very best ranges of my integrity, after which I’m held to it.”
The previous couple reportedly met on the set of Famously Single, an E! present that follows a number of celebrities who transfer right into a home collectively to determine their romantic issues and doubtlessly discover love once more. The season aired in 2016. As a pair, Aubrey and Pauly D appeared on Season 11 of Marriage Bootcamp: Actuality Stars.
As talked about above, Pauly D gave himself one other shot at love along with his personal actuality courting present, Double Shot at Love with DJ Pauly D & Vinny, wherein he starred reverse his Jersey Shore costar, Vinny Guadagnino. The present labored out for Pauly D, as that’s the place he met his present girlfriend, Nikki Corridor. Though they didn’t go away the primary season of the present collectively, Nikki returned for Season 2 and stole Pauly’s coronary heart.
That very same 12 months, Aubrey appeared on Ex on the Seashore, a actuality courting present that she stated introduced her “again to life” in a frank Instagram put up. “After my final relationship with Pauly, it took so lengthy for me to heal from the ache, anger, torture, & toxicity that I discovered love in with him,” she wrote whereas selling the collection.
As of this writing, Aubrey is single, however she appears to have a optimistic strategy to relationships. In an April 7 Instagram put up, as an illustration, she stated that real love will come to those that set their intentions. “Love is intentional. It’s about selecting to be courageous, weak, and likewise communicative about your boundaries concurrently. The aim of intention is to develop, construct belief, and deepen your relationships… intimacy,” she wrote alongside a bikini pic on a Bali seaside. “Being intentional paves the best way towards a pure development to true and lasting Love.”